When you come to a fork in the road, pick it up ...you never know when you're going to need it! But seriously, when you do come to a fork in life's road, the path you take is what determines life's bumps (trials) as well as your destination. In our journey, we are sitting at a fork. The one path... in vitro. First of all, our doctor thinks we will benefit by doing in vitro, because we are both young and...umm, kind of healthy. The reason we are so hesitant to do in vitro is because it costs between $10,000-$20,000. That is SO much money on the line without a guarantee of getting pregnant. I mean, look at the numbers! The average success rate of getting pregnant with in vitro is about 29%....with only a 22% success rate of carrying the baby full term. Plus, will this overcome the problems of Dusty's low sperm motility? We want a baby of our own more than anything, but there are other means of getting a baby that gives a more "guarantee" for us to become parents. And that brings us to the other path...
"Adoption is when a child grows in it's mommy's heart instead of her tummy"! Dusty and I have been to an adoption orientation through LDS Services. We have not yet put in our application, because we were waiting for the results for our 3rd insemination. However, it's hard to decide whether to try in vitro or go ahead with adoption. With adoption, we don't have to worry about the low success rate, yet it will end up costing about $15,000.
I never thought we would ever be faced with a decision that is so life changing. A decision that could make all our dreams come true, but deciding which path to take is so difficult. Do we go into another doctors office for another procedure, and wait for the results? Or do we wait for that call (who knows how long that will be) telling us a beautiful baby needs us to be their mommy and daddy?
I just read over all of your blog posts I am so sorry you guys are having such a hard time with fertility issues. I do think though that adoption is an awesome idea. Their are so many babies out there that need great homes. I do know that it would be hard, but having your own babies comes with struggles as well. But being a parent to any child is a blessing whether it is through adoption or on your own. I have a friend who tried forever to get pregnant and it was for years she just wanted to have her own baby and it never happened so they adopted and she wished she would have done it while she was younger instead of waiting on all the doctors. Her little boy is a blessing to her and she said the adoption was the best thing to ever happen and it was scary but worth every minute. Good Luck.
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